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What counselling can help with



Counselling can help with many difficult life problems - from coping with traumatic experiences and events, relationships, communication, and work issues to dealing with depression and anxiety or other challenging emotions and behaviours. 

Here is an A-Z list of issues and concerns which a counsellor may be able to help you with.
 

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Abuse

Abuse is when the way others treat you becomes harmful to you. Abuse can take many forms, including emotional, physical or sexual. Therapy can help you address how this has made you feel and work through your feelings.

 

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

ADHD can begin in early childhood but many adults are diagnosed with it too. There are many ways ADHD can present itself including; hyperactivity, impulsivity and short attention span or hyper focus.

 

Addictions

Addiction happens when you become overly dependent on something, often when you’re trying to escape from other problems. You can be addicted to many things including substances and behaviours such as:

  • alcohol

  • drugs

  • gambling

  • sex

  • the internet

  • shopping

Therapy can help you address the origins of your addiction to help you stop your addictive behaviour.

 

Adoption

Being adopted can directly affect you in many ways. You may:

  • feel loss or rejection

  • be confused and have split loyalties

  • feel disappointed and depressed

  • be in turmoil over how you feel

In therapy you can talk through how being adopted affects you, understand what you are thinking and explore the issues that you are experiencing.

 

AIDS and HIV

HIV is the virus that causes Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS). It weakens your ability to fight infections. Having HIV does not always mean that you have AIDS, and it can take many years for AIDS to develop. HIV and AIDS cannot be cured but there are many ways you can stay healthy and live longer. Therapy can help by supporting you in dealing with the symptoms and reactions.

 

Anger

Anger is a normal emotion, but it can become uncontrollable and create problems for you, your family and your personal relationships. Anger can stop you from thinking clearly. Anger can cause you to act impulsively, be aggressive/violent towards others and stop you from thinking clearly.

If you find it difficult to talk about how you feel, you may suppress your anger or turn it inwards. This can lead to problems such as:

  • eating disorders

  • self harm

  • drugs

  • addictions

Therapy can help you understand your anger and provide ways to control and change your behaviour.

 

Anxiety

Anxiety is common. You may feel intense apprehension or worry, accompanied by acute physical signs such as:

  • sleeplessness

  • rapid heartbeat

  • palpitations

  • dizziness

  • irritability

Therapy can help you with anxiety, panic attacks and phobias by giving you ways to prevent and deal with situations as they occur and exploring the cause of your feelings.

 

Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)

Autism is a neurodevelopment condition that affects approximately 93,000 New Zealanders. The traits associated with Autism span a wide spectrum and lead to a different way of seeing the world and interacting with others. Therapy can provide support for those living with autism and offer coping strategies.

 

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Bereavement

It is normal to feel angry, sad or lonely when a loved one, including a pet dies or leaves. Working through your feelings with a therapist can help you come to terms with your loss.

 

Bullying

Bullying is a form of aggressive or threatening behaviour. It is usually deliberate, involves a power imbalance, and is a pattern of behaviour over time that leads to fear and anxiety. It's not usually a one off thing, and therapy can be helpful for both the victim and the bully.

 

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Cancer

If you have cancer, you may feel anxious and stressed about the changes in your body or the effects of your treatment. You may be angry and find it difficult to cope with feelings of loss of control. It can help to talk through these feelings with a therapist, as your friends and family may be too close to the issues to see them clearly.

Therapy can also be helpful when a loved one has been diagnosed with cancer, helping you to come to terms with your fears and emotions.

 

Careers

You may benefit from career counselling when you are thinking about possible career movements or areas of study. A counsellor can help you set your personal goals and identify any factors likely to influence your decisions or affect your objectives. They will give you confidential guidance and help to ensure you are setting realistic targets for yourself and making positive career choices.

 

Child related issues

Children and young people, and their families, can sometimes need extra support if they are finding it difficult to deal with or understand their emotions or behaviour. Children can find it hard to express their worries, and unresolved problems may extend into their adult lives. More serious issues like abuse and mistreatment often require urgent specialist attention.

 

Cultural issues

In our increasingly multi-cultural society, people may need help adjusting to their own and other cultures. Personal and professional relationships between different cultures challenge and put pressure on people to maintain their own identity and values which can cause:

  • anger

  • anxiety

  • isolation

  • low self-esteem

  • negative self image

  • feelings of being different

  • questions of belonging

Cultural counselling acknowledges the impact these issues can have on your wellbeing and may help you to cope with them.

 

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Dementia

If you're living with dementia, you may find it hard to make sense of what is happening to you and how your life is changing. You may feel angry, confused, afraid and anxious, and find it difficult to discuss your feelings with family and friends. If you are faced with dementia yourself, or for a close family member, you may find therapy allows you to speak frankly about your feelings and work out ways to live with the condition.

 

Depression

Depression can be a devastating illness that affects your body, mood, behaviour and thoughts. It is not a sign of weakness or failure, and it's not something that can be changed overnight. Without treatment, symptoms can be present for years, preventing you from functioning to your full ability. Sometimes medication is prescribed by a Medical Doctor and counselling is recommended.

 

Disability

Therapy can help you get to know yourself better, clarify issues that matter to you and develop your potential. It gives you the opportunity to work in ways which promote your ability to resolve problems, or to develop coping skills for things which cannot be changed.

 

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Eating disorders

Eating disorders are common and can be serious or life threatening if not treated appropriately. People often use dieting, bingeing and purging start as a way to cope with painful emotions and to take control. But if these behaviours continue, they damage your physical and emotional health and self-esteem. Therapy can help to change thoughts, expectations and behaviours by providing proactive support and encouragement for healthy change

 

Eco and climate anxiety

Also known as climate anxiety, eco-anxiety refers to people’s stresses, fears and worries about the future of the planet and their feelings of hopelessness at the scale of the issue. While it is an issue caused by the wider systems (including economic, historical and social structures) that we live in, it is impacting a growing number of individuals.

 

Emotional distress

Sometimes simply sitting down with someone who can hear and understand helps you put your feelings into perspective. In counselling, you can explore personal difficulties or feelings of dissatisfaction, and talk openly about aspects of your life, in a way that may not be possible with friends or family. Therapy can help you discover what is important to you, so you can live the kind of life you really want and improve your health and wellbeing.

 

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Financial debt

If you have financial problems, you should seek financial advice. It can also be helpful to discuss the emotional difficulties of debt management with a therapist.

 

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Grief

There’s no correct way to feel when you’re grieving. Bereavement and loss affect people in different ways and cause different emotions, feelings and symptoms. Counselling can help you deal with a range of emotions, including anger, sadness, loneliness and guilt, and support the transition and way forward for you.

 

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Health anxiety

Therapy can help anyone who is generally worried about their health, or who needs help in coming to terms with being diagnosed with an illness. Working through feelings such as 'why me?' can be beneficial to your quality of life and wellbeing

 

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Infertility

Being unable to get pregnant, or having repeated miscarriages, causes many complex and painful emotions. Infertility treatments can also be physically uncomfortable, time-consuming and exhausting, placing great emotional demands on those involved. Talking with someone who is not directly involved can help you to come to terms with the situation, manage feelings and support you.

 

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Life skills

Therapy can help you identify the skills and capabilities that you have, and use them to the best of your ability. It can make you better able to change things to:

  • make your life run better

  • realise ambitions

  • fulfil your potential

  • be happier

  • be more successful

  • be less stressed

  • become more peaceful, sociable or fun

 

Loneliness

Loneliness is when you don't have the relationships and social connections you’d like. You don't have to be alone - even people with lots of friends and family can be lonely.

Loneliness can lead to anxiety and depression, and is associated with issues like low self-esteem, low self-confidence, stress and social anxiety. Counselling can help you to explore and understand how you’re feeling and give you coping skills and help to create change.

 

Loss

Loss is not just about death; you could also lose a relationship, a job or your health. Losing someone or something you love is very painful and you may experience many difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, grief and guilt. Therapy can help and support you through this difficult period of your life.

 

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Menopause

Menopause is a natural part of aging but can affect every woman differently. For some symptoms can last several years, impact on day-to-day activities and bring feelings of sadness, anxiety and low self-esteem. Therapy provides a safe space to help you understand what you are going through and develop strategies to cope.

 

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Obsessions and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)

Obsessions are usually unpleasant thoughts, pictures or impulses that come into mind when we don’t want them. Compulsions are the behaviours used to act on the obsession.

Most people have occasional intrusive, troubling thoughts, such as worrying that you've left the oven on, but some people can’t get rid of them. If you have OCD, you may have repeated obsessions and compulsions that seem very important and make you feel anxious. Therapy can help you put things in perspective and develop ways to deal with the origins and triggers of OCD.

 

Older people

Older people's mental health is often overlooked. Depression and anxiety in older adults can be unrecognised, undiagnosed and untreated. Counselling can be really effective in supporting healthy ageing and wellbeing, helping to make sense of life events and transitions that happen to those aged 50 plus and lead to recommendations for further treatment if needed.

 

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Personal development

Therapy can help you use knowledge, skills and experience to develop your self-esteem. This enables you to take responsibility for things like your:

  • health

  • career

  • finances

  • relationships

  • emotions

  • habits

  • spiritual beliefs

 

 

Phobias

A phobia is an irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things or people. Therapy can help you manage these thoughts and put them into perspective, cope differently and improve wellbeing.

 

Post-traumatic stress

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a psychological and physical condition caused by a very frightening or distressing event. With PTSD, you often relive the event through nightmares and flashbacks. You may have problems concentrating and sleeping, and feel isolated and detached. The symptoms are often persistent and severe enough to have a significant impact on your day-to-day life. Counselling can help you create strategies towards healing and wellbeing.

 

Pregnancy related issues

The experience of pregnancy, whether planned or unplanned, can be confusing and stressful, and may cause mixed feelings. For example, you may have concerns about how it could change your relationships. Therapy can help you understand your feelings towards your pregnancy, or explore difficult emotions following a miscarriage, stillbirth or termination. Counselling can help reduce the potential for complications or regrets later in life.

 

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Racism

Racism in all its different forms can take its toll on your mental health and wellbeing, causing stress, anxiety and loneliness. Counselling provides a safe space where you can explore your experiences, thoughts and feelings, helping you to process and begin to heal from racial trauma.

 

Redundancy

Redundancy can lead to feelings of loss and confusion, as well as concerns about how to pay your bills. Therapy can help you work through issues of self-esteem and confidence, and the practicalities of redundancy, helping you to move to your next phase in life.

 

Relationships 

Relationship counselling can help improve the way you relate to those around you and allow you to break free from old patterns of behaviour. This can cover all relationships, including couples and families help.

 

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Self-esteem

If you have low self-esteem, you may view life in a negative way which makes things seem hopeless or pointless. You might think you are worthless, and that other people are better than you. You may have difficulty saying what you really feel, or you may lack the confidence to be assertive. As a result, you may feel that people take advantage of you and treat you badly. Therapy can help you explore the way you feel and change your view of yourself and others. This is preventative of other issues developing including potential for mental illness and suicidal thought sor actions.

 

Self-harm

Self-harm can be a way of coping with painful and difficult feelings and distress. You may harm yourself because you feel overwhelmed and don’t know how else to deal with things. Therapy can help you discover and deal with the feelings that led to you to self-harm and find healthy ways to prevent and address feelings of overwhelm.

 

Sex related issues

Sexual difficulties can occur at any time, especially during times of stress and change. If sex used to be exciting but no longer seems so, therapy can help you with why the change happened and how to create ways forward. . In a good relationship, getting help should give you an opportunity to find some answers and improve your understanding of each other.

 

Sexual abuse

Sexual abuse is when you are pressured to do something sexual against your wishes. It includes unwanted touching, images and rape. Some people blame themselves and some do not report the abuse. Or may have been influenced to trust the abuser or feel they will be punished for telling about it. Childhood abuse is not always addressed until sexual problems emerge in adulthood. Talking to a therapist allows for the return of choices about relationships and support to report if that is decided to be the best action.

Sexual orientation, gender identity and diverse sex characteristics

Working out whether we are comfortable in relationships is part of our sexual identity. You may feel really sure about your sexual and/or gender identity or it may be more fluid and changeable For many people, coming to terms with their sexuality can cause a lot of anxiety and heartache. You may know from an early age that you are lesbian, gay, bisexual or may have a transgender identity. Or you may be confused about your sexuality and want to take time to work out what is right for you. . Talking to a therapist can help you explore these feelings in a safe environment and be supportive of yourself in any decision making

 

Social anxiety

Social anxiety is a type of anxiety that relates to social situations. It can affect people when they talk to others – not just in large gatherings, but also when they meet new people at work or school. It can also affect one-to-one conversations and is sometimes called social anxiety disorder or social phobia. Uncomfortable feelings can be explored safely in counselling.

 

Spirituality

Spirituality is about how you make sense of the world and find meaning in your life. It can, but does not necessarily, involve specific religious beliefs. Therapists who are experienced in spirituality can help you find your own ways towards inner peace and a deeper sense of meaning and belonging.

 

Stress

Stress can be a positive thing and help you achieve your goals. But too much stress can put your health at risk and lead to physical, mental and emotional distress. Therapy can help you to manage your life differently and support you to develop coping strategies.

 

Suicidal feelings

Many kinds of emotional pain can lead to thoughts of suicide. You may reach a point at which you feel you can no longer cope. You may not want to die, but you may need help at that moment. Therapy helps by allowing you to share your thoughts and feelings and work on ways to transform negative thoughts and help you to move through distress to make choices for yourself.

 

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Trauma

Emotional and psychological trauma can be the result of extraordinarily stressful events that affect your sense of security. You may feel helpless and vulnerable. Trauma can be caused by a one-off event, such as a bad accident, a natural disaster or a violent attack. It can result from ongoing, relentless stress, such as living in a crime-ridden neighbourhood or struggling with major health issues. Talking to a therapist could help you to regain your sense safety in the world and make choices for improved ways of being.

 

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Work-related issues

The average person spends almost a quarter of their adult life at work. It can give you a sense of purpose, structure and satisfaction while also providing the means to finance daily life. It can also cause stress, frustration, poor health and self-esteem issues. If you start to lose sleep, constantly dread going to work or develop unhelpful coping strategies such as drinking too much alcohol, a change in eating or sleeping as a way to escape. Talking to a Counsellor can help you to develop healthy ways forward.